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Kal Penn

Kal Penn

By The Sunday Paper Team
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In his new book, You Can't Be Serious, actor and comedian Kal Penn opens up about love, relationships, his time working as a staff member for the Obama Administration, Hollywood, and huge life lessons. He also reveals something intimate and unknown…until recently…to the public: he has been in relationship with his partner Josh for 11 years, and the couple is engaged. You can learn more about Kal and Josh's love story in People.

And for a peek at Kal's new book, read this excerpt from You Can't Be Serious below, selected for The Sunday Paper.


Sexy Face by Kal Penn 

In all, I had the honor of serving in the Obama Administration for just over two years…a year longer than I initially planned. While the shorter-term victories had been meaningful, I hadn't wanted to leave until we finished with some of the bigger items I had the privilege of working on: passage of the Affordable Care Act, repeal of Don't Ask, Don't Tell, an attempt at the DREAM Act, doubling the Pell Grant. I felt a sense of grounded humility in knowing there were people whose lives would be better off because of small but consequential decisions our team was part of making. In all, working in government reinforced the reality that when citizens are more involved, good things can happen. When you work at a place like the White House, you realize early on that none of it is actually about you. You take an oath to protect and defend the Constitution, and have the honor of serving the public. When it was finally time to leave Washington and transition back to my acting career, when I took that photo of Gandhi off my office wall and packed it with the American flag I kept on my desk, I felt more hopeful than ever about our collective ability to impact the democratic process. If more people got involved, paid attention, spoke up, and partnered on the issues they cared about, we could push the country so far forward. I felt lucky too for things in my personal life. Josh had decided to join me for the move back to Los Angeles, and as we settled down on the West Coast, the transition was made even better by my two new jobs. First, a recurring role on season seven of one of my favorite sitcoms, How I Met Your Mother. Then, a holding deal with CBS Television that culminated with a role on the short-lived comedy We Are Men with Tony Shalhoub, Jerry O'Connell, and Chris Smith. That there was positivity in the move back to LA is not to say there weren't frustrations or missteps. One of my first film auditions after the White House was supposed to be for a movie in which Denzel Washington plays an airline pilot. For about a week, Spilo excitedly updated me on when I might be called to read for the project. 'They're interested in you!” he'd say. 'They're calling in a few days with more information.” When nothing materialized a couple of weeks later, I called Dan and learned that one of the producers ultimately felt they couldn't hire me because they already had a performer of color in the cast. 'They don't want to waste your time by asking you to come in, since they already know they won't cast you.” Curious about my competition, I poked Dan for more info. 'Who else did they cast?” 'Well, Denzel,” he said. 'Wait, you're saying that they told you I can't be in the movie because they already have a person of color and that person of color is Denzel Washington?!” 'Something like that, yup.” 'But we aren't even on the same level!” 'Oh, trust me, I know.” I got hot-tempered. 'Give me the casting director's phone number.” 'Why?” 'Because I want to call them and tell them that if the real first Black president of the United States didn't have a problem hiring a real brown guy at the real White House, maybe a fake airline wouldn't have an issue hiring real black and brown guys to work together in a movie!” Dan shrugged it off with a polite laugh. 'Welcome back to Hollywood, Kal.”
Excerpted from YOU CAN'T BE SERIOUS by Kal Penn. Reprinted with permission from Gallery Books, a division of Simon & Schuster, Inc. Author photo by Maarten De Boer.

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